Monday, May 17, 2010

Losing Todd

It was a sad day at therapy for us today.

We walked in to start our regular Physical Therapy when our PT dropped the bomb on us.

He's changing offices.

Me: Oh? Well, we can follow you, right?

Todd: You CAN, but the new office doesn't take medicaid.

Me: Oh...then we cant.

silence........

tears start welling up.... more tears start welling up.....and some more....

feeling like a total ninny. but cant seem to get the tears pooling up under control.

Todd went on to explain that its not one of those happy moves. Its because there are problems going on at the office he is at right now. It almost made it worse to know that this move isnt just something that is better for him personally...It's because of well....most likely...stupid people.

I somehow made it through the rest of therapy without boo hooing like a child.

Luckily all of this went over Toby's head because he was too excited to see Todd and play.

The water works did start big time after getting on the phone with Nate. There's something about hearing my husbands voice that makes my tough mommy just melt away into a puddle full of tears and emotions. (unfortuantly for Nate)

As I wrote before, so much has been accomplished this past year. We started with Toby shortly after his 3rd birthday and we will be finishing our last session shortly after his 4th birthday. Todd has been the core of all of the changes we have experienced. He has been the push, the drive and the knowhow this past year.

I am thankful for the time that we have been able to pick his brain, but am just plain sad for the time we will miss out with him.

I know that when we sit down with Toby to let him know it will be a sad day in our house.

Please pray for us as we look for someone to replace Todd....even though he isnt actually replaceable.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Three to Four in Six days

It has taken me some time to decide to blog this or not. There are just certain parts of our lives that dont belong on blogs dont really need to be opened up for everyone to see, read or feel. But there are those parts that are still good to share whether or not they be hard.

Toby's birthday is in 6 days. Pretty big deal. It's the big 4!!!

Now I'm sure you are thinking that the last statement doesnt seem to go along with the first paragraph, but for me it does.

There is one problem with this birthday for me. 4 seems so much bigger than 3! This birthday is a big deal for me because I feel like the difference between Toby and other children will become more apparent. Yes, its only 6 days older than he is today, but now when someone asks I 'll have to say, "He's 4." And then you get the surprised look. The surprised look is always a bummer.

So even though his birthday in and of itself is incredible. I can remember being in the hospital with him like it was yesturday (and if you ask Larie that's pretty remarkable for my memory) The thought of his disability seeming .....stronger....that's not the right word, but I think you get it. Is a bummer.

As I write this out, I realize how incredibly flawed my thinking is. Isnt it funny when you see something written down that you realize how you arent focusing on the right thing. The last few days I've been focusing on the things Toby cant do. (I guess this proves I am not super mom) I've been focusing on the learning issues, the struggles, the hard parts. When in fact as it gets closer to his birthday I should be focused on all the things he CAN do.

So everyone, you are being a witness to a change in heart as I write. Funny how God works. Yes, this birthday will still be hard, yes it will still be a bummer to say that he's four and someone react shocked,but that's okay, because now im going to write a few of the things we have accomplished this year.... just a few.

Walking ALL THE TIME!!
Climbing in and out of his car seat
Going down a small step with his walker
Singing in the car
Wanting his braces on
Going Potty
Working on arm crutches
Putting the wheelchair in storage

So, looking at that list makes me realize.,,maybe three to four isnt so bad after all. we've had a pretty eventful year three!! Maybe four will be even better!!

Saturday, May 8, 2010

The end results of Galleria Mall incident

so what's happened since the big Galleria thing in Dallas, you ask? Well, if you are a facebook friend with me you've heard bits and pieces.. (if not ask to be my friend I can never figure out how to look anyone up on that thing)

So here's what went down. After repeated messages from lots of friends from all of the country to the Galleria. One finally got a little more than a form letter back from someone, stating that they hadnt even heard from me. NOT TRUE!! I hadnt written to them and as I said before Nate had called them the very day it happened.

Well, I wrote AGAIN. Explaining who I was. Within a week I had an email in my inbox from a very nice lady by the name of Leslie who is the Vice President for Simon Malls in Texas. She asked that I call her or that I send her my number.

So of course I called. (during nap time so that I could hear everything HA!)

She was an incredibly kind lady who was extemely and I believe sincerely apologietic. She heard me out and heard about why I felt it was a big deal and never once tried ot rush me off the phone. (Huge in todays day and age) She then asked some questions in regards to the conversations Nate had. They still couldnt figure out who he talked to. I called her back later that day with some more details from Nate about whom he talked to.

She wrote me an email later on that day. They are pretty sure they have figured out who made the first phone call and have narrowed it down to 4 men who called Nate back that day and chewed him out.

Here's the exciting part.

Because of this all the security guards for Simon Malls in the state of Texas have now undergone training for situations like this one. To make sure that it is actually handled correctly!!! I think that is the GREATEST accomplishment out of all of this. What a wonderful way to end this situation!!

On another note...we are receiving a 100.00 visa gift card from Simon Malls. : )

So, I hope this is an encouragement to you, especially you SB mommys. We can make changes. We can do this without being vindictive or ugly or even overdramatic. We dont have to become bitter but we can take action in hopes to improve things for other children!!
And sometimes...just sometimes...it actually works! : )