Holding Hands

This past week was our first double duty therapy. Tuesdays and Thursday Physical Therapy session for Toby. Between that and getting ready for VBS my poor house has suffered. For that reason this will be a short but sweet post.


If you read my last post over at SpinabifidaKids you would have read that Toby stood on his own for the first time.


Selina (our new PT for Toby) has really sparked some strong desires for us and really set the standard quite high. But oh it's so worth it.


Toby has walked with his arm crutches on his own!! Now this isnt the I'm standing at the kitchen and he takes steps across the living room all by himself. This is a painstaking process of me making promise after promise to not let him fall just to get that first step with my hands just inches from his arms.

It goes something like this.

Mommy: Toby do you trust mommy?

Toby: Yes..but but but...*tears*

Mommy: Toby I promise I'm not gonna let you fall. I promise.

Toby: *sobbing*

Mommy: What's scary Toby? Tell me why your scared?

Toby: I'm gonna fall

Mommy: I promise Toby. I promise promise promise. I will catch you. I promise to catch you


Then finally we get that first step. Of course then we get like 5 or 6 more right after that. And of course he's all smiles and super proud of himself. (which makes the tears and frustration totally worth it)



Tonight was an awesome night for me. Tonight I had Toby use one arm crutch and I held his hand while we walked to the couch in the living room. I have never been able to hold Toby's hand while he took a step. Its one of those things Ive cried over and I've just missed. He used to try to hold my hand in his wheelchair all the time and it just never worked. But tonight we got to hold hands!

It was big!

I didnt get a picture of it because of course I was busy, but I thought I would at least post a picture of our bedtime reading. Toby picked out 'Fancy Nancy' Oh that boy. No matter how much he loves Star Wars, Army men and all kinds of stuff. He'll still pick out something like Fancy Nancy!!


Comments

Mom of The Fields Fam Five said…
Thanks for sharing your precious moment! Your willingness to share gives hope to those in need!
July 24, 2010 at 2:36 AM
Leigh and Andy said…
Tears of joy after reading this post. :) I have found myself holding Grey's had while he is in his stander, just to see what it feels like. :) What a feeling that must have been! I'm so proud of Toby for facing his fears and taking steps with his crutches...what an amazing little guy!!
July 24, 2010 at 7:36 AM
Anonymous said…
I knw that means so much. :) :) :) :) !!!!! So proud of him!
Bec
July 24, 2010 at 9:24 PM
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